Being single is not a bad thing, but it can be frustrating for some people, such as you, which is why you are reading this post. In this article, I will share some advice that might help you with finding love, and I hope that it’s actually useful information. There is no formula for finding the right relationship with the right person that will last till death do you part. However, there are some steps that you can take in order to find your ideal partner. We are going to look at four things that you can do to meet the right person for you.

Some Advice For You

Now, before I share tips to help you get into a relationship, I would like to first mention that I am not a relationship guru. However, I am sharing based on my experiences and opinions, and trust me when I say, getting into a relationship is the easiest part of it. Being in one can be very difficult and comes with many challenges and compromises that you have to make in order to keep the relationship alive and healthy. Another thing is that this post is not to help you sleep with someone (fornicate), and I will not be sharing that kind of advice.

Make sure that you are looking for a relationship with the right mindset and heart towards it. As I stated before, I am not writing to give you advice on how to sleep with someone or have a temporary fling. Relationships are about more than just love; they involve life’s choices, career paths, where you want to live, and a lot of decision-making that can change you. Another important aspect is to ensure that you are looking for someone who aligns with your values and goals.

By saying “someone who aligns with you,” I mean that you must seek a relationship with someone who matches your beliefs, personality expectations, and physical attraction. You must be attracted to the person you want to be with; otherwise, down the road, you might grow resentful towards them when you could have completely avoided that situation. An example of someone who aligns with your beliefs is someone who practices the same faith as you do. For instance, if you are a Christian, then date a fellow Christian who is as mature in Christ as you are.

God willing, I will touch more on this matter in the future. For now, let's focus on the things you can do to potentially get into a relationship.

1. Socialise

Being an introvert is cool, but it doesn’t necessarily help you with finding love. Some people claim to be introverted when they are actually just shy, anxious, or experiencing other similar feelings. I know this because I was once that kind of person, but over the last six years, I have been growing in my social life. It’s not perfect, nor where I want it to be, but it’s certainly better. So, you might need to get out of your bed and out of the house, putting yourself in social settings that give you the opportunity to meet new people and make friends.

I am not suggesting clubbing, although some people claim to find love there, it’s not really the best place for it. If you want to find a decent person to have a beautiful and God-centered relationship with, then you will need to put yourself in environments where you are likely to meet such people. For example, you can start attending church again, participate in charity events, or strike up conversations with people at the park or in restaurants.

The point is to greet and be nice. The first few people you talk to might never become your life partner, but it’s better to be friendly, and that can help you get started with being more social. While you can try this on the internet, in person, it’s much more satisfying and effective.

2. Be Confident and Friendly

This point supports the first point that I shared. You need to be friendly and open towards people. I used to have an angry expression because of past experiences and I genuinely disliked people. So, you might need to change up your attitude, build a friendlier, more positive character, and this will help you tremendously. Ever had someone ask you, “Why are you angry?” when you were just being yourself? Your facial expressions affect how people perceive you.

Life is hard, yes, and it's hard for everyone, but that's not an excuse to look mean. Try to smile more often, listen to upbeat music that makes you happy and puts you in a good mood. Music influences your mood, so if you're constantly listening to dark, sad, or depressing music, it's likely to affect your mood and make you seem unapproachable.

Consuming positive content can enhance positivity and confidence. You may notice reduced shyness and increased openness to conversation, along with a better outlook on the world and those around you. As a Christian, I find that Bible reading and prayer significantly improve my mood and state of mind. I wholeheartedly recommend developing a personal relationship with Jesus Christ based on Biblical teachings rather than human opinion.

3. Get On Dating Apps

Obviously, in-person communication can be challenging. Therefore, exploring online dating can facilitate meeting new people and you are not necessarily limited to dating apps. Sometimes, your soulmate might already be in your contact list, and a single text could potentially change your life. That's how it happened for me, I simply responded to a story, and from there, our conversations blossomed into a beautiful relationship, which has its ups and downs.

Instead of using social media and dating apps for casual encounters, consider using them to find meaningful relationships. You don't necessarily need to rely on apps like Tinder, which are often associated with casual dating and sexting. There are other platforms designed specifically for finding love, such as Christian Mingle (not sponsored), and alternative websites which you can explore when apps aren't available.

Meeting people online can be beneficial because if you decide to meet them in person, you have the opportunity to make friends even if romantic relationships don't develop. Additionally, these experiences allow you to learn from mistakes and improve for future dates. Meeting people in person also helps enhance your social skills.

4. Learn to Accept and Move On From Rejection

As I mentioned in point three, not every connection will lead to a successful relationship, but it's important not to lose hope in finding love. Learning to accept rejection gracefully and moving forward is crucial. For example, I faced multiple rejections over a year from a girl I pursued, but I eventually found someone else who appreciated me, and we've been together for a long time.

Getting over rejection was particularly difficult for me back then, especially since I was younger and dealing with social anxiety and other challenges. However, if it happened today, I believe I would have handled it more maturely and gracefully. It's important to accept when someone isn't interested and to move forward with strength. Remember, what someone doesn't appreciate, someone else eagerly values.

Conclusion

To summarise the points shared in this post:

Make yourself available; you can't play hide and seek alone and expect someone else to find you. Get out there and meet people, even if you might face rejection or things may not work out. It's not the end of the world, there are many amazing people out there, and finding the right person may take time, but with perseverance, you will. I look forward to writing an article about things to look for in a partner soon. In the meantime, I hope this post has been helpful. Thanks for reading, and God bless.

About Daniel Hebron

Daniel Hebron founded Boot Motivation in 2022 with the aim of inspiring and empowering society through Christian values and beliefs, creating a platform that promotes faith, personal growth, and positive change.